"Buy Me a
A review by Jenni:
What I love about this episode:
I like what Tess says about how marriage is God's way of letting
people practice loving one person completely so we can learn how
God loves us. Personally, I would have tweaked the line to
say that it's *one* way in which that lesson gets across.
Cause I do believe parenthood, being a child, friendship, etc. can
also help teach that lesson.
This episode is a RENThead's nightmare. And I mean that in a
good way. Because it's pretty realistic. It scares me
how many people start out with these bohemian/romantic ideals and
then end up with marble floors, grand staircases, and
misery. While I think it's safe to say I will never own a
house as huge and gorgeous as this couple's... I already see some
of my bohemian ideals fading as I spend more time cleaning my
house than creating anything in it.
Tess is a great bartender. I might actually go to bars more
if there were bartenders like Tess.
My favorite non-regular character is Abby. Because she is
pretty and adorable and behaves well. And her bond with
Denny just goes to show that some people should be left alone to
live out their lives with their dogs.
I so love that Tess deliberately breaks a glass to keep Denny and
Ellen from kissing. Classic Tess! Go monogamy!
So most of this episode is kinda hard for me to comment on since
I'm not married but I'll give it a try. I do think marriage
is portrayed pretty realistically here... from what I've
seen. While I think Greg is depicted as less sympathetic
than Ellen through out, I do appreciate that the writers don't
make him soulless. He's been hurt, too. I imagine it
is difficult to spend so much time building a lifestyle only to
wind up feeling like you weren't good enough.
And when Ellen tells Greg she shouldn't have
to ask for what she most wants... wow. If I had a transcript
of conversations I've had with angry wives, I'd be able to find that
exact line in it. So that seemed so true to life to
me. Although I remain unsettled about to what extent and when
it's a legitimate claim.
I agree with Tess about tea. I love coffee. But tea is
definitely more comforting. Although I may just think that
cause I mostly drink coffee in the mornings when harried and
getting ready for work. Tea I drink later when things have
I really appreciate that Ellen tells Monica outright that she
can't understand it all because she's not married. I think
it's important to keep that in mind with the angels. Cause
not only do they never marry but they also didn't grow up
witnessing parents', grandparents', aunts' and uncles'
marriages. I'm not saying they don't have anything to offer
as far as advice but they can't possibly know all the emotions and
feelings involved. So I liked it when the writers assured us
they realized that.
My favorite quote in the episode: "There's nothing about a woman's
heart that God doesn't understand." I should have that
engraved somewhere. I had to pause and rewind to hear it
again when Monica told Ellen that.
"We all come from God." That's part of a longer quote from
Monica to Ellen. But I mostly liked that part.
I thought it was very well put when Monica told Ellen she was
making Greg compete with a memory. I've never done that in a
romantic relationship but I know I do in other aspects of my
life. I imagine many, many people do. And it's good of
TBAA to remind us of how painful that can be for everyone
Another awesome moment is when Monica turns the tables on Ellen
and asks her when *she* last wrote a love letter to Greg. It
makes me wish I'd thought to ask that when I'd have women complain
to me about their husbands. (Why do they, btw? What do
I know?! I live with a mutt-child. Not a husband.)
"Love is not a line you draw in the sand and then dare the other
person to step over. Love is not a feeling that comes and
goes. Love is a choice and God wants you to make that choice
right now." Great line. And it makes me very glad I
chose not to write a scene in my most recent JABB story in which
someone literally drew a line in the sand and dared another
character to step over to prove their love. Yikes.
Maybe I'm just a nerd but I was super impressed that not only did
Greg end up writing Ellen a love letter but he chose really
beautiful stationery! Gotta appreciate a guy with good taste
in paper. Yes, I really am a nerd.
What I didn't love about
It bugs me when a character seems to forget their own
history. Like when Andrew forgot he could play the piano in
"Then Sings My Soul." Here, Monica hits just such a moment
right away. She seems surprised that there would be three
angels assigned to two humans (Tess
clarifies that it's three humans). But whether two or three,
why would this surprise Monica? "Deconstructing Harry" is
mostly just two people. A good chunk of "An Unexpected Snow"
was just two people. "Lost and Found" was basically only one
person. It's not like the angels worked directly with the
lost children. And the list goes on. There's
absolutely nothing surprising about this situation. There's
no reason for the line to exist.
Aww sad... I don't like how when Tess talks about the
couple's love possibly dying, they pan to poor Andrew! It's
like "Andrew: Marriage Killer!"
Very sad that a flannel shirt appears in this episode and it's on
Monica... not Andrew.
Denny's handwriting looks disturbingly like Andrew's. Or
it's just in my head.
Wow... How awful that Greg is at first most upset about
Ellen going missing because of his deal instead of the idea that
she may be cheating or in trouble? Eeek.
I find Denny's transformation touching but rushed. How does
he go from "Come over to my place" to being this sage "You need to
be with your husband" person overnight? Maybe THC cut
something that would make this a lil less drastic and quick.
Am I the only girl who doesn't find it effortless to
compliment another woman on her clothing? I mean I do on
occasion. But generally I just don't notice. Here
Ellen and Monica start off on the compliments right away and only
then did I pay attention to what either was wearing. And now
I couldn't even tell you what their outfits were beyond black and,
I think, silver. ETA: Blue and beige. I am bad at
this... Although, watching this a second time, I do think
Monica's outfit is partly black. And now Ellen's looks
silver again... Okay, it must just be about angles.
Point being: I don't pay much attention til I have reason to.
Do people really drink their milk iced? Tess asks Denny is
he wants his straight up or on the rocks and had a glass of ice
What are we to make of Denny's and Ellen's kiss? It seemed
weird to me as Denny had counseled Ellen to return to Greg and
that they didn't have a real future. Then they kiss.
And Denny says it was just a good bye kiss. So are we just
sposed to see it as that and be okay? I mean why on the lips
in that case? I feel like maybe Monica should have said
something to Ellen about it.
Why are you never supposed to boil water for tea? This
according to Tess. How else do you make tea? Or maybe
what I consider "boil" and what she does are two different
things? Whether I put water in a tea kettle (preferable) or
a saucepan (second best for tea), I consider it to be boiling but
maybe when you put it in a kettle it's actually something else.
I don't know what to make of the love letters thing... I'm
something of a pack-rat with old papers. So I think if I had
love letters, I might be the type to want to keep them just as a
memento of the past that brought me to where I am. Yet, the
idea of a married version of me reading a past boyfriend's letters
does seem troubling. But if I wouldn't read them, why keep
them? But throwing them in the flames seems harsh...
So what should you do? Is TBAA right? And is there a
statute of limitations, so to speak? I mean what if in first
grade some classmate wrote you a crush-induced note? Can you
keep that? I mean when does a note become a threat?
Monica told Ellen that she knows what it's like to be tempted to
go where she doesn't belong. Oh really? When!? I
mean I know she did in "Netherlands" but that hadn't come to pass
Parts that made me feel
Not gonna lie. There's something very appealing about Andrew
as a landowner. Even more appealing: he's an anti-commercial
landowner. And, yeah, I realize God's actually the owner but
still... Andrew is awesome.
Ellen is right. Andrew *is* interesting. And Greg is
also right. He is *not* interested in money. And those
both make him very appealing... It's maybe good he's not
real. He would be my Denny.
Gah. Why did TBAA have to go and make Andrew into some sort
of theology-with-emphasis-on-social-justice major's ideal?
When he tells Greg that he *is* his brother's keeper... Love
I seriously started laughing hysterically when Monica told Ellen
that she knows what it feels like to be misunderstood and taken
for granted. Really, Monica? Cause I'm pretty sure
Andrew knows that feeling awfully well, too, and I think you have
tendency to play into that. Way to be! Poor
I *love* watching Andrew's eye brows and hearing the tone of his
voice when he insinuates to Greg that maybe he's the crazy one of
the two of them.
It's also very cool when Andrew, based on experience that Greg has
no clue about, tells the man that at the end of his life love is
the only thing he'll be able to take with him.
Andrew is just really impressive through out that confrontation
with Greg. He's very no-nonsense and blunt. And I
actually like that he doesn't glow but simply disappears.
It's more mysterious that way.
Random, unknown piano music through out including at the start
during the reception and later at the hotel when you hear a jazzy
number and a slow number during Denny's breaks. Young Denny
sings "Ellen" for... Ellen. Kenny Rogers sings "Love Don't
Live Here Anymore," "I Want to Hold You in My Dreams," and, of
course, "Buy Me a Rose." I thought it seemed like THC cut a
song! The one Denny wrote for Ellen that he sings at the
hotel was apparently written for the show. I'll dub it "Mr.
Piano Man." Basically a man goes to the piano man and asks
him to sing a song about love. I Googled various lyrics but
turned up nothing.
There is a character in this named Pookie. Just let that
sink in. I thought I misheard but no...
Scenes Hallmark cut:
-When Ellen tells Tess that she lied to her husband for the first
time, THC slices and dices what follows. It goes on to show Ellen
opening her anniversary present which is revealed to be 1000
shares of Greg's waterfront project. She's ticked and
ponders aloud if a love letter would have been too much to
ask. Tess fills up her cup and tells her to get back onto
the road once she's finished and head home so she won't be led
into temptation. Then cut to Andrew and Greg at dinner which
-See above under the music subsection. They cut a scene of
Denny performing a song written for Ellen.
-They cut bits of the scene of Ellen and Denny walking in the
snow. It actually starts with the distance shot then goes to
her telling him she's never been unfaithful to her husband.
He assures her that he's not asking her to be unfaithful to him,
only faithful to herself. He can tell she's unhappy.
She asks if he's happy. He says as happy as he can be
without her. He says his life is good but would be better
with her. *Then* she asks about his music which is where THC
goes after the opening shot.
Further on down the road...
At the start, Ellen and Greg *are* making out like I did when
I was a teenager... which is to say they're not making out.
Buh bum bum. And, of course, Andrew shows up right when I
type that. Ha.
Now I want to go to our art museum... which recently went to free
I'd feel so weird about leaving someone I *just* met alone in my
house for a weekend. I don't care what mutual
friends/acquaintances we had. Eeek. I'm very
private. I don't even know that I could have household help.
I can't imagine living 20 years with someone and never lying to
them. Too bad Ellen's first lie had to be so huge BUT... the
record is impressive.
Giggle. I still love Andrew talking as he chews. He's
really into his dinner. The other guy isn't touching his
food but Andrew's like "Heck yeah I'm eatin!"
Greg is a world class jerk. Just because your wife hires
someone to help organize doesn't mean you get to order them to
play chauffeur. Honestly, I think Ellen maybe needed some
alone time. No Greg. No Denny. Not right away,
anyhow. Also, I realize he was distressed but Greg's
violence is worrisome.
I'm not sure I agree that Denny isn't a better man... The
problems went beyond Greg simply not expressing himself to his
wife. He just didn't seem terribly courteous to
anyone. He was a jerk to Andrew, a jerk to Monica, and
self-involved. Yes, I do believe people can change.
But up until Andrew's revelation at which point I don't know that
he had much room to argue... he just treated everyone as beneath
him. I think they needed a scene of Greg being kind to
someone without any reciprocity for me to fully believe in this.
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